I am the secret that you keep; MISS SCARLET.

Sunday, December 26, 2004

something i believe is very true

["When we meet the right person to love, when we're at the right place, at the right time, that's chance. When you meet someone you're attracted to, that's not a choice. That's chance. Being caught up in a moment is not a choice. That's also a chance.The difference is what happens afterwards. When will you take that infatuation, that crush, that mind-blowing attraction to the next level? That's when all sanity goes back, you sit down and contemplate whether you want to make this into a concrete relationship or just a fling.

If you decide to love a person, even with his faults, that's not chance. That's choice. When you choose to be with a person, no matter what, that's choice. Even if you know there are many people out there who are more attractive, smarter, and richer than your mate, and yet, you decide to love your mate just the same. That's choice.

Infatuation, crushes, and attraction come to us by chance. But true love that lasts is truly a choice. A choice that we make. Regarding soulmates, there's a beautiful movie quote that I believe is so true about this: "Fate brings you together, but it's still up to you two make it happen." I believe that soulmates do exist, that there is truly someone made especially for you. But it's still up to you to make the choice if you're gonna do something about it or not.

We may meet our soulmates by chance, but loving and staying with our soulmate is still a choice we have to make. We may have been searching too hard for the perfect one and so the saying goes, "Fret not, for the perfect one will come to you without you having to search for her..." but then again, we came to the world not to find someone perfect to love, BUT to learn how to love an imperfect person perfectly..."It's true when people say you'll only learn the real value of things/people when you lose them. I have. And regretting doesn't help."

I believe everyone, like me, has at one point of time or another, wished that they could turn back the hands of time to undo certain things they did or said. I know that it isn't possible to do that, but there are things that can be done to salvage what's left of any situation. It just depends on whether you really want it or not." ...love is probably the most strangest thing in the world. it hits you when you least expect it, it gives so generously, yet takes selfishly. At most times it has regard for others and yet, we sometimes still feel the pain in which this unusual feeling brings..."]

this was written by a friend's friend of mine (thank you for such sincere words). what has been said is very true, but how many of us actually have the courage to face such (maybe) harsh truth? this links very well with my previous entry about "letting things go". letting go doesn't only apply to our own hurt or anger, but also to those whom we feel we have connected with. everyone enters our lives for a Reason. when their Reason for being in our presence has been accomplished, they will walk out. be it to teach us seasonal lessons or life lessons. that's what i have learnt to believe. it has been very hard for me to let go of many people in my life, and ultimately, it has led to me hurting myself. is it really worth hurting yourself, when you know there are so many people out there who will hurt you all the same? if you don't protect your heart, who else will?

you may give and give your heart, soul and emotion to just one person, but they never seem to see you. maybe he/she is just there to be a companion in that part of your life, then leave. their purpose is not to love you for life, but to be a dear friend and teach you, so that you may apply his/her lessons later on in life.

i can't believe, me being the overly-emotional person that i am, that i have to force my heart to listen to all this. it's just not Me. i know that i tend to give too much of my trust and reliance to someone a little too easily... so you can guess it stings like shit to get betrayed. you give and give your effort and feelings, only to be left in the dust. with the other person having the last laugh. *SIGH*

the bottom line of all this is that, we have to come to terms to accept what the other person has decided for himself/herself. if they are persistent about not continuing the relationship/friendship with us, then we can only be thankful that we got to know them once in our life. i believe everybody grows a little stronger with every passed acquaintance.

hurt is inevitable. tears may flow. hearts will break once more. life continues.